On Marriage and identity -thoughts on marriage equality

The union of a man and a woman is unique and different from any other. Just as the union of a man and a man or a woman and a woman is also unique and different. Neither of these are the same. Similarly with transgender unions they are unique and different. By the very nature and desire or design of the people these relationships are necessarily different. In these ‘alternate’ relationships there has been a choice exercised. Based on desire or design (as some assert)  some people choose to ‘live out’ that difference – in fact the difference is celebrated.

The journey of ‘identity’ is a struggle for all humanity. For some the roots of that are ‘nature’ for others ‘nurture’ or any combination of both. But identity is not only defined by sexuality – there is so much more that defines us.For some our identity comes from inside us, for others like me it comes from outside me, from a designer a creator.  Some would find that unlikely but for me that is a point of rejoicing, because my identity struggle is over. There is no question about my designer, my design or its purpose.

This too is a point of difference from others who by choice seek to find their own design and design purpose. I’d suggest that those who choose the latter elect to be different. I would suggest that we are not equal in the sense we are not the same.

To demand that all things be the same – when they are clearly not seems to me to be counter-intuitive and flies  in the face of the very thing that supporters of same sex marriage are trying to achieve through ‘marriage equality’. Our unions are not equal in that they are made up differently. Could there be equal or even greater affection between same gender or transgender relationship – without a doubt? But the unions are not equal , not the same by choice. By actively pursuing a particular identity and expression of it  difference has been created. Continue reading “On Marriage and identity -thoughts on marriage equality”

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Fear Is Your Enemy

While God is not afraid of sin or sinners, most of us are. We’re afraid of people’s mistakes, and we’re afraid of our own. It’s no wonder our entire society, including our court system, is set up in such a way that fear and punishment are the solutions to bad behaviour. And as long as we operate out of fear, we will inevitably continue to reproduce distance and disconnection in our relationships with God, others, and ourselves. The cycle can only be broken by repenting from the lie that we can control other people and by accepting the truth that the must control ourselves.
As soon as you begin to believe this truth and stop trying to control people, you’re going to be confronted with a lot of resistance from the old normal. And it won’t give way to Heaven’s normal without a fight. Continue reading “Fear Is Your Enemy”

God is looking for yielded ones

In Matthew 11:12, Jesus said,  “From the days of John the Baptist until now, the kingdom of heaven has been forcefully advancing, and forceful men lay hold of it.”

 In 2 Chronicles 16:9, the Revised Standard Version we read  “For the eyes of the Lord run to and fro throughout the whole earth, to show his might in behalf of those whose heart is blameless toward him.”

God is looking for people through whom He can show himself strong. How does He show himself strong? By working through the people who are willing to be yielded so that He can show himself strong through them. And the Bible says God is actually looking around the earth for someone through whom He can show himself strong.

If his eyes were upon your city today, would He find you crying out, “God! Let your eye fall on me, for I want to be totally yielded. I want to be that person through whom you can show yourself strong. I want to be the coin in your pocket for you to spend any way you want. I want your glory to rest on me. I want to be the donkey that you ride on. I just want to be yielded, God, and I want to believe that I can be the person that you clothe yourself with. I want to believe, God, that I can be mightily used in your kingdom. God, in my heart I am saying to you, please, look upon me and let your grace fall upon me because I want to reveal your glory. Show yourself strong through my life.”

Excerpt from ‘Pressing In’   Ps Randy Clark Ch 1